Unfortuantly no, there needs to be 3 different parts. For some parts defined in core (and which we can sometimes fool Fritzing in to believing our part should be one of them), the different versions can be selected in Inspector, but they still need to refer to 3 different parts. I suspect that the .030 holes will likely be fine for the “swiss pin” type headers (the ones that are for IC pins rather than .1 headers) as their pins to the board are small so your pcb should be at least usable.
Peter